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Trust your instincts that the person may be in trouble.
Communication needs to include mostly listening.
Talk with the person about your concerns.
Ask direct questions without being judgmental, such as:
"Are you thinking about killing yourself?"
"Have you ever tried to end your life?"
"Do you think you might try to kill yourself today?"
Determine if the person has a specific plan to carry out the suicide. The more detailed the plan, the greater the risk:
"Die by suicide?"
"Have you thought about ways that you might kill yourself?"
"Do you have pills/weapons in the house?"
Do not leave the person alone.
Do not swear to secrecy.
Do not act shocked or judgmental.
Do not counsel the person yourself .
Get professional help, even if the person resists.